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     Hebrews 12:6 KJV
 "For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, And scourgeth every son whom he receiveth".

 Message: 
  The word "chasten" means "correction, punishment, rebuke, reprimand, admonish, reprove, lecture etc. Love is not being stupid, love is not accepting everything and anything, love always focuses on improving the loved and making them get better. One thing love does is to always make you better than you are and used to be. Love goes beyond, just using hands to rubb your head everytime. 

 The Bible says in Revelation 3:19 (KJV) "As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent". One of the targets of the God kind of love is to see you improve, get better and change. The word "repent" means "to turn around", "to change" etc. If you love a child genuinely, you will not allow such to do everything and anything they desire. 

 There are many things children want to do that can harm them. For example, a child that is trying to put his hands into an electrical socket with electricity must be helped by stopping him and taking such away from such vicinity. There may be temporary cry, pain and discomfort for the child initially but it is for the good of the child eventually. There is a side of love that chastens, scourges and corrects.

 Correction, rebuke or pain is not to harm a child but to help them escape danger and to know that such is dangerous to them. Training precedes reigning, how you train a child today determines whether they will bring you glory or shame tomorrow. God, who is love deals with us in such a way that, whatever needs to be handled or tackled is done at the right time, so that we can make Him proud at the end of the day.